I was recently called and asked to participate in a Gallup survey, and for some reason I agreed. Eventually, after wading through questions about political beliefs and the economy, the question about my personal happiness came around. I thought about it for a second, and didn’t have anything to complain about. I felt content with life so I answered “Yes, I am happy” and I finished the survey.

After I hung up the phone I kept asking myself, “Am I truly happy?” and “What could I do to make myself happier?”

…and thus a personal journey of self discovery began.

I could bore you with an endless array of what I found about myself, or I could answer it for you in a simple sentence that might contradict the American dream: the opportunity cost of owning a house at 23 sucks.

No, we aren’t hurting financially like many Americans. We bought a house that we could afford, we got a low interest, fixed rate loan, and we put down a good sized down payment (10%). We have an almost fully funded emergency fund, we are both employed, and we live a frugal lifestyle. The issue comes when I look at the opportunity cost of home ownership, or what we could be doing if we didn’t own a house.

The thing about owning a house is that no matter how much financial knowledge you have you can never really account for the opportunity costs of this often emotional purchase that is deemed a “necessity.”

I think about how much money we spend each month on our mortgage, taxes, insurance, utilities, and HOA dues and I cringe when I think about what else we could be doing with half of that money if we had bought a less expensive house, or even if we were renting. One of us could work while the other focused on entrepreneurial ventures or attended grad school. We could work for a year, save up, then quit our jobs and travel the world for a year. Even if we waited another year we could have saved up enough money to put an even larger down payment on a house, thus lowering the future monthly burden.

I look at our house as the reason why we have to work. I feel like I work a job not because I want to (even though I do), but because I have to, and this feeling of burden makes work seem like a chore instead of a learning experience.

So I challenge you, as you are tempted by a free $8,000 first time home buyer credit, to truly think about how much money you want to spend on a house, and the opportunities that you will give up as a result.

For the record, my wife disagrees with me. Her rational (and mine at the time of purchase) was that we bought a house in which we could grow into and start a family, while this is true, I believe that the only thing that would make me a happier person right now would be owning a less expensive house that wouldn’t feel like a burden.

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