Note: At the suggestion of a reader I am splitting the post into two separate pieces. Stay tuned for 10 Steps to Haggling!
When I was younger I had very low self esteem, there was no reason for me to be shy and scared to talk to girls, but I was. I was scared of them saying no, or even worse, laughing at me. I’m not a bad looking guy, but this fear was very real. My older brothers would try to help me with this by bribing me to go up to girls and ask them out, but I only successfully did this once…and by successfully I mean I actually asked the girl out; she said no.
The only reason I met my wife is because she had a mutual friend set us up on a blind date after seeing me in a picture. I would have never “sacked up” and asked her out on my own, but considering I was put in a situation where it would have been very awkward, and quite frankly rude, for me not to, I asked for her number and waited the obligatory 3 days to call her. Ladies- for an insight into a guys mind during this “waiting period” watch the movie Swingers.
When I first started to haggle I would get the same knots in my stomach as I would when I would be scared to ask a girl out or tell her that I liked her. I was scared, scared that the salesman or manager might think less of me, scared they would say know, scared they would be offended. Why was I scared? I really don’t know, I never had a situation that scarred me, but I think it all stems from my historically low self esteem (now practically gone thanks to my wife!).
Today when I was haggling for a new pair of over-priced running shoes, I happen to be haggling with a cute woman, and it all clicked! The nervous feeling I would get when wanting to ask a girl out is the same nervous feeling I get when haggling…except haggling is way easier. Haggling is a confidence builder!
I rarely get turned down when I haggle, and when I do it’s never a big deal, I leave with my pride, and confidence still in tact that I tried, so I have no regrets. This has built my confidence up greatly. That is confidence that I could easily turn around into “technique” and confidence for picking up women (not that I ever would, I am very happily married). I will have to find someone to try this technique on, but I’m positive it will work. Haggling is the best confidence builder I’ve had…besides getting married.
I implore you all to at least try haggling, whether you get a discount or not it ends up being a rush so it feels good afterwards, but when it does work and you save some money, it builds your confidence, and you get that rush. Also, as an added bonus, if the salesperson is a member of the opposite sex you can subtly flirt and complement the person to help you haggle! Pretty soon, haggling will be no big deal, and you can turn that confidence and flirting into picking up members of the opposite sex!
As a disclaimer, use discretion, it may hurt your chances if you haggle on a first date, you don’t want to come across as cheap, even though there is a distinct difference, not everyone understands it. Later on you can show your frugalness.